An extraordinary collection of resources for the Thanksgiving holiday featuring Pema Chodron, Robert Emmons, Brother David Steindl-Rast, Gregg Krech, pianist George Winston and more. Material to inspire you – concrete ideas for practicing gratitude and Thanksgiving.
George Winston's "Thanksgiving"
THE SPIRIT OF THANKSGIVING
Thanksgiving and the Spirit of ON
by Gregg Krech
I once traveled with a friend who had great insight into human nature. He said, “Wherever you go you can find something to complain about.” If we travel, we can complain about lumpy beds and crowded airports. But if we stay home, we can complain that we never go anywhere interesting and there’s never anything good on television. When I first went to Japan about twenty years ago I had a little book of phrases to help me communicate in Japanese. I had purchased it without thoroughly examining it, but when I was in Japan I read it carefully. I was amazed at . . .
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Sipping a cup of Negativi-tea
by Gregg Krech
For the past twenty years I’ve been presenting a scene at my workshops, in which a husband and wife come home after work and greet each other in the living room. One spouse begins by reporting the litany of problems faced that day – traffic, boring meetings, computer crashes, parking ticket, etc. . . When that spouse is done, the other one responds: “You think you had a bad day?? Let me tell you about my day.” And now we hear an even longer, and more dramatic, recounting of problems and complaints. By bedtime, both partners are emotionally exhausted and glad the day is over.
I now offer a second script . . .
Gratitude and the Spirit of Thanksgiving
“ In between birth and death everything I have is a gift – my body, the clothes I wear, the knowledge I have, family and friends, hobbies I enjoy, the house I live in, and so on. The are all “mine”, but only as things temporarily entrusted to me during my sojourn on earth ”
- Rev. Taitetsu Unno
Grateful For Nothing
by Gregg Krech
My friend Donna had an interesting experience several weeks ago. She compared it to winning the lottery. She was so touched by this experience that she mentioned how grateful she was for things she normally takes for granted every day – water, trees, electricity and more. So what kind of extraordinary good fortune came Donna’s way? Why was she feeling so grateful, so lucky? Here’s what happened . . .
Attention, Obstacles and Gratitude
An audio excerpt from a public radio interview with author Gregg Krech about attention, obstacles and the experience of gratitude.
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Pema Chodron "This Lousy World"
Stages of Gratitude
by Gregg Krech
Many of us wish to be conscious of how our lives are blessed. We don’t want to be stuck in a complaint-based life. We want to be grateful. Yet we constantly regress to a state of mind where we focus primarily on our problems and complain about how hard and unfair life is. Our state of mind (and spirit) is a roller coaster, going up and down between feeling grateful and sinking into despair or resentment. The following stages may reflect where you are at any given moment. We don’t “attain” some higher stage and remain there. Instead we can develop . . .
The practice of Naikan is transformative. It is deeply personal. Naikan shines a light on your life that will soften your heart and open your mind, revealing truths that have been hidden from your view and leading you toward a richer, more joyful and more fulfilling life. This collection of essays, parables and stories will provide a rich introduction to Naikan and enable you to begin experiencing the benefits of this self-reflection practice on your own.
I hope to buy copies of this book for Christmas this year to give to all of the people I love. I read this book and applied its principles to my life and especially my relationship with my husband. It is transformative! By using the techniques discussed in this book, which are really very simple to use, you gain a truer, fuller picture of what is happening in any relationship in which you are involved. It has helped me to truly appreciate my husband, something that hasn't happened in a very long time. Of course, he feels that appreciation and the result has been a wonderful transformation of our relationship. I recommend this book for everyone as I can't imagine anyone for whom it would not be life changing in some degree. --From an Amazon review
THE PRACTICE OF THANKSGIVING
Nine Steps to a Thankful Thanksgiving
by Gregg Krech
I confess that I have taken glass for granted. The main floor of the ToDo Institute (where I live) contains 14 panels of glass, many of them nearly as tall as I am. These glass windows and doors bring the outside inside. On a sunny day, the room fills with sunlight. When there’s a harvest moon, there’s a whisper of moonlight in the house much of the evening. Ironically, I take glass for granted, because I don’t want to take the view for granted. I look through the windows to the south and I may see the reds and golds of autumn foliage one day, and a gang of wild turkeys the next. I’m always looking past the glass . . .
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The Spirit of Thank You/Sorry
Do you ever have to interrupt what you are focused on to go pick your kids up at school? Do you ever put dinner together for the family because you should, not because you are inspired to...
Not Complaining -
by Brother David Steindl-Rast
"Later I asked myself, what is it that upset me? And the answer is change. And this is where all of this gets connected with gratitude. You see, I don’t want change. The little me doesn’t want change; it’s very allergic to change. You see how this is connected with complaining? It’s the little me against the rest of the world. And the little me sees itself as entitled to something. The world owes me something. But really what on earth does the world owe you when it comes down to it? Absolutely nothing."
Expressing Gratitude is Transformative
by Roshi John Daido Loori
“ Expressing gratitude is transformative, just as transformative as expressing complaint. Imagine an experiment involving two people. One is asked to spend ten minutes each morning and evening expressing gratitude (there is always something to be grateful for), while the other is asked to spend the same amount of time practicing complaining (there is, after all, always something to complain about).
One of the subjects is saying things like, "I hate my job. I can't stand this apartment. Why can't I make enough money? My spouse doesn't get along with me. That dog next door never stops barking and I just can't stand this neighborhood." The other is saying things like, "I'm really grateful for the opportunity to work; there are so many people these days who can't even find a job. And I'm sure grateful for my health. What a gorgeous day; I really like this fall breeze."
They do this experiment for a year. Guaranteed, at the end of that year the person practicing complaining will have deeply reaffirmed all his negative "stuff" rather than having let it go, while the one practicing gratitude will be a very grateful person. . . Expressing gratitude can, indeed, change our way of seeing ourselves and the world."
An interview with author Robert Emmons, Ph.D.
For over twenty years Robert Emmons has been studying what makes people happy. Read about his conclusions in this interview that was published in Thirty Thousand Days.
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